Designing Your Ceremony 2019-05-02T11:13:35-04:00

Designing Your Ceremony

There are two facets of the design process. First, we ask you to consider how you wish to honor and celebrate the life. Then, we will turn to the issue of how you wish to care for the physical remains.

Honoring Life

How to Honor a Life

It’s about bringing those you love together at a time of loss. It’s a natural thing to do, and over time, has become a socially-expected practice. More importantly, a funeral or memorial service is the first step in healing.

You can have your service anywhere, and any way, you want. Your choices include the place of celebration, day of the week, and time of day; the musical selection, what prayers will be said or songs you’d like sung. We can arrange to have doves, butterflies, or balloons released at the close of the service. Keepsake gifts of wildflower seeds or a tree seedling can be given. We’re here to help you create the most memorable and meaningful service to honor your loved one.

Burial or Cremation?

Burial or Cremation?

Next, you will choose between burial and cremation. Usually, people are clear on this point. In fact, your loved one may have told you, or someone else, exactly how they wish to be cared for. But it can be a hard decision for some families, especially if the wishes of the deceased were never clearly stated. If that’s the case, please know we’re able to help you come to the perfect decision for your loved one, and for you.

Once you decide, the finer details come into focus. If you’ve chosen burial, then selection of the casket, vault, and desired cemetery follows. Naturally, we’re here to help you.

If cremation is your choice, then you’ll need to make the next decision: whether the cremated remains will be placed in a mausoleum niche, or buried on the cemetery grounds.

In some communities, there’s the option for a ‘green burial.’ If that’s what your loved one would prefer, we’ll help you select an environmentally-friendly choice.

The Ark

A memorial service, whether traditional, or contemporary, is the first step in healing; ceremony has always been woven into the fabric of our lives.

Ballard-Durand Funeral & Cremation Services offers to those families who choose cremation, the Ark. The Ark is used to transport the cremated remains of their loved one to your place of worship or graveside to add to the dignity of the ceremonies.

When earth burial is not the final disposition for the cremated remains, the Ark is used to hold the cremated remains for a simple presentation ceremony at the funeral home.

As with every service we provide to our families, honor and respect have always been our guiding values and the Ark is one way we are able to add to that dignity.

“It wasn’t your typical, ‘sorry for your loss’, it was personal. The job Ballard-Durand did was absolutely beautiful. I will never forget Matthew, or the team who works with him.” – Mike Bizzoco

What’s Next?

Now that we’ve given you the basics, it’s time to reflect more on exactly what is appropriate for you and your family. If possible, gather everyone together to speak of their feelings and desires.

Still looking for inspiration? Call us today at (914) 949-0566.

Customer Review

Bernard M.

White Plains, NY

My wife Amy passed away almost 2 months ago, and Ballard-Durand was wonderful to me and my family throughout the whole thing. Our funeral director, Joe Murray was so caring and thoughtful with his guiding us every step of the way. I cannot thank him enough! The service was beautiful, and I am still getting positive comments from family and friends who could not attend, but watched the streaming of the service. And the video they made was wonderful, it completely blew me away! Joe was there for us every minute and long after the service ended. He will always be in my memory for his special, genuine caring! To top it off, yesterday was Dove Release Day, an annual event where they invite loved ones to release doves in memory of their loved ones who passed away. There's a slide show with photos of loved ones that passed away. I am still touched by the caring and genuine love I felt from everyone at Ballard-Durand, from their wonderful owner Matthew to all those involved. I will long remember the sight of our doves being released, all at the same time, to fly high in the sky in formation, circling overhead a couple of times before disappearing out of sight. What a wonderful day!!!!! Ballard-Durand is a very special, caring, loving place!!!!!