So Kam Jear

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Born on August 2, 1932

Departed on May 5, 2019 and resided in Mahopac, NY

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Mahopac, New York

So Kam Jear, endearingly known as Susie, passed away peacefully on Sunday, May 5, 2019, with her family by her side.

She was born in China on August 2, 1932, the daughter of Look Gow and May Seeto.

In 1958 in Toronto, Canada, she married the love of her life, Yee Roy Jear, affectionately known as Roy, who survives her. Married for over 60 years, Roy and Susie raised four devoted children, Carol, Nancy, Eileen and Sidney.

Eventually settling in Westchester, Susie and Roy became successful restauranteurs of several well-known Chinese restaurants, among them, Joy Luck Restaurant in Yorktown, Joy Li Restaurant in Cold Spring and, finally, Roy Luck Restaurant in Jefferson Valley. In each restaurant, their children worked side by side with Susie and Roy to earn their living. Susie, the hostess extraordinaire of each restaurant, brought a dauntless spirit into managing the restaurants, and carried a simple elegance into every aspect of her life. Everyone who had the good fortune of patronizing her restaurants knew her graciousness extended beyond her hospitality. No one was more welcoming to friends or strangers and she loved to inspire smiles on hungry faces. Indeed, her kindness was pure and perfectly dovetailed with her genuine grace.

Survivors include her beloved husband, Roy Jear of Mahopac; her daughter, Carol Knoch of Garden City, NY and her husband, Larry and grandson, Christian; her daughter, Nancy Waples of Hinesburg, Vermont and husband, Gregory and grandsons, Lane and Graeme; daughter, Eileen Jear and her husband, Drew Bongianni of New York City; and son, Sidney Jear of Cold Spring, NY and his partner, Ruth Herring and her son, Christian.

Susie is also survived by her brother, Kent Gow of Brighton, Massachusetts and his wife, Susan and their children, William, Nancy, Jean and Kenny, and their respective spouses and children, all of whom Auntie Susie loved, doted upon and adored.

Susie was predeceased by her parents and her most cherished sister, the late Sue Szto, of Marblehead, Massachusetts. Her brother-in-law, William Szto of Marblehead, Massachusetts, husband of her beloved sister survives Susie, as well as, her nieces and nephew, Jane, Anne,
Sally and John and their respective families, all loved, treasured and admired by Auntie Susie.

Being a mother, devoted wife, and adoring grandmother was always Susie’s greatest achievement and her commitment to building a family was unwavering.

Relatives and friends are invited to attend calling hours on Thursday, May 16, 2019 from 4 pm to 8 pm at the Ballard Durand Funeral Home in White Plains. A service to celebrate Susie’s life will be held at 11 am the following day on Friday at the same venue.

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  1. Luciano Salerni May 7, 2019 at 8:56 pm - Reply

    Our condolences to the family.
    May she rest in peace.

    • Carol, Larry and Christian May 7, 2019 at 10:34 pm - Reply

      Thank you Jo and Lou. Your sympathy and our Jefferson Street circle of friends mean a lot.

  2. Savarese Family May 8, 2019 at 5:55 am - Reply

    Love and prayers for your family. Find peace knowing your mom is at peace. ❤️

    • Carol May 8, 2019 at 10:42 pm - Reply

      So blessed to call you friends and sister.

  3. Lillian Chow May 8, 2019 at 8:12 am - Reply

    We have the fondest memories of our early years with Auntie and Uncle, Carol, Nancy, Eileen and Sidney.
    Auntie Kam was the kindest and gentlest loving woman who cherished family above all else.
    Our thoughts are with you all.

    With sadness & love
    Suzan, Lillian, Spencer & families

    • Carol May 8, 2019 at 10:46 pm - Reply

      Beautiful Aunt Suzan, I’ll always cherish the memories of mom, you and Auntie Kim at your home and at the cottage.

  4. June Ngo May 9, 2019 at 11:05 am - Reply

    , My deepest sympathy to the family, have fond memories of the family Jear. Such a wonderful person, may she rest in peace. Aunt June.

  5. Jeanne Yuen May 9, 2019 at 2:30 pm - Reply

    Uncle Roy, Carol, Nancy, Eileen and Sidney
    Deepest condolences to everyone. There are no words to describe the love she had for her family.

    Aunt Suzy will be missed ….we will always remember the smiles and laughter she brought each time we saw her.

    ~ Rest in Peace Dear Aunt Suzy ~

    Much Love,
    Jeanne, Steven, Cameron and Ethan

  6. Joan Sullivan Higgins May 9, 2019 at 3:50 pm - Reply

    My thoughts and prayers are with the Jear family. I’m so sorry for the loss of your mother. May she always be with the light of Christ.

  7. Nancy Wong May 13, 2019 at 1:51 pm - Reply

    Dear Uncle Roy, Carol, Nancy, Eileen, and Sidney,

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this sad time. We will always cherish the joyous memories of Aunt Sue. She will always be in our hearts.

    Rest In Peace, Aunt Sue.

    Love,

    Nancy, Wai, and Brady Wong

  8. Ted and Sohee May 13, 2019 at 2:26 pm - Reply

    Our condolences and love to Sid and his famlly. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

  9. Dawn Fonseca May 14, 2019 at 12:30 pm - Reply

    My deepest condolences to the family. Prayers to all you of and the Gow Family.

  10. Jane Chin May 15, 2019 at 3:06 pm - Reply

    We were so saddened to hear of Aunt Susie’s passing. She was a kind and loving soul and will be missed greatly. Our deepest sympathy to Uncle Roy, Carol, Nancy, Eileen, Sidney and family. May she rest in peace.

    Love,

    Fay, Jane, Wayne, Lisa and Kenneth

  11. The Szto Family May 15, 2019 at 9:07 pm - Reply

    To Roy and the Entire Jear Family, We are sadden and surprised by the recent passing of Suzie. It was not long ago since our last phone conversation, when I had thanked her for my 94 th Birthday card and gift. We had chatted about life past and present moments and of our family growth. I wish I had the strength and ability to travel to NY to attend the services with all of you. Suzie and all of the family members will be in our thoughts and heart this Friday. With Loving Memories and our Deepest Sympathy, Wai Leung Szto and Johnny. xoxo

  12. Sally Powell May 15, 2019 at 10:23 pm - Reply

    Each time I called “A-Yee” on the phone, without fail, she would start off by saying, “Hello Dear” and after our conversation of catching up she would always end with, “I Love You, Dear”. I will miss our conversations, I will miss hearing her voice and I will always cherrish those words! Uncle Roy, Carol, Nancy, Eileen and Sidney, our hearts are heavy with sorrow for your loss and we extend our deepest condolences to you and your family.

    With Love,
    Sally, Philip, Solina & Anthony

  13. Simon Wong May 16, 2019 at 6:12 pm - Reply

    We will forever be grateful for the fun times times we shared with Aunt Susie. She was so special and full of laughter and will be greatly missed but her kindness and gentle spirit will be remembered forever in our hearts.

    Love,

    Simon, Brenda, Natalie and Trevor

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