Malcolm "Birdie" Gholston

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Born in White Plains, NY on October 31, 1986

Departed on October 9, 2020 and resided in West Haven, CT

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Robert Malcolm Cook Gholston, Birdman, as he called himself, was born on Halloween in 1986 and, from the beginning, his mom said he was the trick and the treat. A bright spark. A genius with a photographic memory and a voracious appetite for knowledge. An avid sports fan.  A gifted artist.  A natural leader who saw the best in us and wanted the best for us.

He was born in Greenburgh where he attended public school and graduated from Woodlands High School.  He was a football player, a video gamer and an avid reader.  For the past 10 years, he has been honing his skills as a studio and digital artist.  He relocated to Connecticut in 2019 where he resided until his death.


Everyone who knew him will laugh when they think of his great storytelling. They will shake their heads and smile when they remember his lectures about doing right by themselves and recognizing their own greatness. They will say “He was so crazy! He was so funny! He was so smart!”

Mal had this way about him that attracted people like a magnet. He made friends everywhere he went. We couldn’t wait until he showed up because he was sure to add his special energy to the occasion. And while he was not religious, when asked, he would say that he was blessed. But Birdie didn't just make friends; he made family. If you were a part of his world, you were part of his family and he cared for you fiercely. There was nothing he wouldn’t do for you. All of us who knew him, knew that he loved us dearly and deeply. And, though he was not sentimental, he was sincere and honest about his feelings toward us all. He will be missed!

He leaves behind his parents, Anita and Felton Gholston, his siblings: Benjamin, Avery,  Maya and Thera. His nephews: Jaida and Joel; his grandfather, Charles Cook; his grandmother, Maralyn Mosley; his aunts and uncles, June Castleberry, Kathy Graham, Donna Renee and Michael Mandella, Marc and Paula Cook, Woody Pascal, Christopher and Adam Mosley. His cousins: Lori and Steve Harris, Debra Castleberry, Duane and Senia Castleberry, Roderick Junior Lewis, Mary Anne Shelton, Amber Chisolm, AJ. Pascal. His favorite kids: Chase, Olivia, Jeremiah, Markie, Carter, Claudia, Cheyenne, Junior and Levy and finally Team 8: Ken, Benny, Marcel, Temesha, Liz, Meka, Turon, Justin, Morgan, Tameka, Tavon and many, many more.


Birdie’s final message to us would be...

“There comes a time in your life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. You surround yourself with people who make you laugh. Forget the bad and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you well, pray for the ones who don't. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is a part of life, getting back up is living.  Today may there be peace within. May you trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be. May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born in yourself and others. May you use the gifts that you have received and pass on the love that has been given to you. May you be content with yourself.  I love you all.”

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  1. Tavon October 13, 2020 at 5:20 pm - Reply

    Love you bro! Long live you forever king!

  2. Hope Thompson October 13, 2020 at 6:35 pm - Reply

    The memories will live on. I love always and forever cousin

  3. Jelani Cooper-White October 13, 2020 at 7:25 pm - Reply

    Words can’t express the hurt my soul feels brother but I can see you right now making rounds and chopping it up with all the greats we have lost. Gone to soon but never forgotten Birdman Forever

  4. Jacquie October 13, 2020 at 8:36 pm - Reply

    “To the well organized mind, death is but the next great adventure.”

    • Priscilla Eisenring October 15, 2020 at 5:10 pm - Reply

      I’m so sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences to his family and everyone that loves him.
      May he Rest In Peace 🙏🏻

  5. Akua A October 13, 2020 at 8:38 pm - Reply

    Pelle Pelle, Sip in Paradise! One of the smartest, funniest people I have ever met! My sincerest condolences to the family on the humongous hole that you being gone leaves them with! May your light continue to shine bright with your loved ones! Sending prayers of peace to all who loved you!

  6. Jim e. Xerox October 14, 2020 at 10:57 am - Reply

    May God hold you in his hand during this difficult time.

  7. Duane Castleberry October 14, 2020 at 3:20 pm - Reply

    Love you cuz. SIP kid and we are going to continue pushing forward that love over hate. Thriving while we are living today. See you when I get there Birdman

  8. Sen October 14, 2020 at 3:27 pm - Reply

    My Birdie!!!!! Luv you for EVER!!! Your Sen4LIFE

  9. Peggy Bradford October 14, 2020 at 4:20 pm - Reply

    Anita and Felton, family and friends,
    I’m deeply saddened by your loss and will be praying for you daily. May the memories and prayers sustain you.
    Love Ya, Peggy Bradford

  10. Heather Ostman October 14, 2020 at 4:37 pm - Reply

    My heartfelt condolences to his lovely parents and family and friends. I am so very sorry.
    With love, Heather Ostman

  11. Debra Long October 14, 2020 at 4:42 pm - Reply

    I am truly sorry for your lose. May God continue to show grace and mercy during this time of sorrow.

  12. Susan Arietta October 14, 2020 at 4:51 pm - Reply

    I really have no words….I am heartfully sorry for you and your family. Susan

  13. Joanna Peters October 14, 2020 at 4:53 pm - Reply

    Dear Anita, and the Family of Birdman aka Mat,
    There are no adequate words to share with you except that you have my most heartfelt and sincere condolences. His light and your shared love will inspire you all to a greater lilfe that we so cherish when we are reminde just how fragile it really is. Take comfort from those who love you and share your grief.
    With sympathy and love,
    Joanna (Peters)
    Westchester Community College

  14. Deborah Krikun October 14, 2020 at 5:15 pm - Reply

    Sending my blessings to the Cook Gholston Family and Friends. Birdie’s talent and sweet disposition is a treasured memory.

  15. Laura Milhaven October 14, 2020 at 5:25 pm - Reply

    My heart hurts for all of you. I send loving prayers and virtual hugs now and always. May he rest in peace and find the love and comfort in the arms of those who he will see again in heaven.

  16. Sandra R October 14, 2020 at 5:30 pm - Reply

    Anita and family: I’m truly sorry for your loss. May you find grace and peace during these difficult times.

  17. Regina Logiudice October 14, 2020 at 5:43 pm - Reply

    Anita and family:

    My deepest and sincerest condolences. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Love Regina

  18. Gelaine Williams October 14, 2020 at 6:29 pm - Reply

    Dear Anita Cook and Gholston Family,

    I was saddened to learn of the loss of your precious loved one. May the God of all comfort meet your every need and comfort you as only He can.
    Prayers for you, your family and many friends.

    Gelaine Williams
    Westchester Community College

  19. Delores Castleberry October 14, 2020 at 7:07 pm - Reply

    Stinky Smurf I will Love You Forever. Until we meet again

  20. Rhianna October 14, 2020 at 7:27 pm - Reply

    Malcom, I can’t believe you are gone. We will miss your vibrant spirit. May you rest in power! ❤️

  21. Debra Long October 14, 2020 at 7:37 pm - Reply

    Anita and family,
    My deepest sympathies and heartfelt condolences are with you and your family.

    Debra Long
    Westchester Community College Colleague

  22. Versella Morgan October 14, 2020 at 9:08 pm - Reply

    To Anita & the Gholston Family

    My condolences on the loss of your son; may you all comfort one another with the good memories he left with each and everyone of you.

    Be Blessed!!

  23. Ginny Falcone October 15, 2020 at 9:29 am - Reply

    Dearest Anita and Family,

    My heart aches for the loss of your precious Malcolm, who would bring his mom flowers at her job, just because. I am sending my deepest condolences, healing prayers and all my love to you and your family. You will remain in my thoughts and prayers for peace and comfort.

  24. Donna Imbriani October 15, 2020 at 9:40 am - Reply

    Anita& Family

    I am truly sorry for your lost. I did not know your son, but after reading the passage I felt like I knew him for years. He sounded like such a genuine, inspiring, kind, loving, funny, caring human being. My heart feels so heavy for you and your family, my heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family. May Malcolm continue to inspire you all with his words and his memories.

    Donna Imbriani
    Westchester Community College

  25. Dana Carter October 15, 2020 at 10:58 am - Reply

    Dear Anita:

    Oh, Anita, I am so very sorry for your loss. In my work capacity, I had the pleasure to meet Malcolm. May your memories of Malcolm comfort you and make you smile. I will pray for you and your family during this difficult time.

    Dana Carter
    Westchester Community College

  26. Belinda Haughton October 15, 2020 at 11:15 am - Reply

    Anita, hold onto those sweet memories, they will help to see you through!

  27. Rita and Kevin Slavin October 15, 2020 at 4:59 pm - Reply

    Dear Anita and the Gholston Family,

    Our sincere condolences on the loss of your precious son, Malcolm.
    Please accept our heartfelt sympathy. We are thinking of you at this most difficult time.

    Rita and Kevin Slavin

  28. Dawn Gillins October 15, 2020 at 6:27 pm - Reply

    My Goodness Anita and Family,

    My sincere condolences to you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.

    Dawn Gillins

  29. Dawn Gillins October 15, 2020 at 6:40 pm - Reply

    Anita and Family,

    My sincere condolences to you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.

    Dawn Gillins

  30. Lennisha Swinney October 15, 2020 at 11:47 pm - Reply

    My condolences to the Gholston family as well as extended family. He was a lovely soul I enjoyed talking to him❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  31. Erika L October 16, 2020 at 8:59 am - Reply

    That energy, that light, that humor. I’ll never forget those times we shared. I’m so glad you entered my life through Maya and became family too. When you came to Louisville and stayed with us… my whole family fell in love and couldn’t wait until you came back through! We love you Birdie!

  32. Lisa Neville October 16, 2020 at 9:29 am - Reply

    Dear Anita and Family,

    I am so sorry for your loss. May your memories of Malcolm keep him in your heart forever.

    Lisa Neville

  33. Pamela T Pollard October 16, 2020 at 9:37 am - Reply

    My condolences and prayers for the family during this difficult time.

  34. Marcy Kalkut October 16, 2020 at 9:55 am - Reply

    Dear Anita, Sending my love and condolences on the loss of your son.
    Marcy Kalkut

  35. Wanda Galloway October 16, 2020 at 11:11 am - Reply

    Dear Anita and Family,

    My deepest condolence to you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this most difficult time. I Pray that God continue to Bless your heart and provide comfort in your deepest time of sorrow.

    Blessings contintinly
    Sincerely, Wanda Galloway and Family

  36. Brittany Bunbury October 16, 2020 at 11:22 am - Reply

    Gholston Family,
    Hey family i am sorry to say goodbye to the person who was responsible for putting smiles on my face as a child, beating me up when I didnt cheer loud enough at the football games and treating me like another little sister. Birdie you will be missed so much. Im mad the last words you said to me was i need to see ya face more i always thought we had more time. Birdie you are truly loved and will be missed.

  37. Tracy Adams October 16, 2020 at 11:48 am - Reply

    So sorry for your loss. Prayers of comfort for you all. With love and affection,
    The Carver, Carroll and Adams families

  38. Farhad Ameen October 16, 2020 at 11:51 am - Reply

    Dear Anita and family,

    So sorry for your deep loss – my sincere sympathies to you and your family!

    Farhad Ameen

  39. Eileen McKee October 16, 2020 at 11:58 am - Reply

    Dear Anita,
    I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved son. You and your family are in my thoughts during this time.
    Eileen McKee

  40. Satoya Foster October 16, 2020 at 12:03 pm - Reply

    Malcolm was always a deep and thoughtful person with an amazing sense of humor. Praying for love and deep peace for you all during this time.

  41. Gigi October 16, 2020 at 2:24 pm - Reply

    Your Vibe is truly one of kind… I love you.

  42. Kenya Bagby October 16, 2020 at 2:53 pm - Reply

    Dear Anita I am so saddened by the loss of your beloved son. I am praying for you and your family.The love in your family is so evident and I pray that you guys can find some comfort in the Scriptures of the Bible. Revelations 21 verse 3 and 4 reminds us of a time when we will not have to be in sorrow or tears anymore. I know me and the rest of your WCC family will keep you in our thoughts and prayers. May Gods Holy Spirit comfort you and continue with you all.

  43. Steven Brinson October 16, 2020 at 2:58 pm - Reply

    Gone but never forgotten S.I.P… Prayers and condolences to the Gholston Family, friends and loved ones!!!!!

  44. Rodney October 16, 2020 at 3:09 pm - Reply

    Great dude since day one ! Rest In Peace bro u will be missed for ever

  45. Maria Clarizio October 16, 2020 at 4:42 pm - Reply

    Dear Anita and Family, So sad for your loss. My daughter, Adriana was heartbroken to learn of Malcolm’s passing last week. She remembers dearly her classmate from Woodlands High School. I remember her referring to him as “a happy, fun guy” I also, recall Malcolm having a good time at Adriana’s Sweet 16 party. But, only last night, I learned he was your son🙏Anita. Our deepest condolences from Maria and Adriana (Acevedo) Clarizio

  46. Ellen Zendman October 17, 2020 at 2:29 pm - Reply

    Dear Anita,
    Words are useless at a time like this, but friends can try to fill the gulf of grief with caring.
    You were always very special in the WCC firmament and I felt fortunate to have the benefit of your thinking and your dedication.
    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
    With deepest sympathy,
    Ellen Zendman

  47. Sue Hacker October 18, 2020 at 9:12 pm - Reply

    Dear Anita,
    My deepest sympathy to the Cook and Gholston families on the loss of your beloved Malcolm. May you all feel the warmth of God’s love supporting and surrounding you all in this very difficult time.
    Sue Hacker

  48. Gina Gaines October 19, 2020 at 9:46 am - Reply

    Anita and family,

    My deepest and most sincere condolences to you on the loss of Malcolm. I pray for strength and peace for you and that you are comforted by sweet memories and the love and care of family and friends during this most difficult time.

    Gina Gaines

  49. Ahmed Aly October 19, 2020 at 12:26 pm - Reply

    I was really shocked and surprised by your death. I pray for your family to get thru this tough time and wish that god grants them patience to get thru this. You were always a great friend to me and treated me like your brother Ben and I always appreciated that. I always remember the good and fun times we had. May god rest your soul.

  50. Michele Maya October 19, 2020 at 12:35 pm - Reply

    My heartfelt condolences to you and your family on the loss of your precious son, Malcolm.
    His memory will be a blessing and his spirit will live on in all those who love him.
    I am so very sorry for your loss.

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